Kindness Matters

As I sit here today questioning the kind of world I want my children to grow up in, and ultimately the kind of world I would like my grandchildren to inherit, there for me is one thing that is more important than anything else. I want them to live in a world where kindness matters.

I want my children to grow up in a world which accepts difference, encourages tolerance and promotes belonging.

I don’t want them to live in a world full of fear, violence or hate.

I want my children to welcome their friends but also to welcome strangers. I want them to treat others as they would like to be treated.

I don’t want them to walk down the street fearful that they will be persecuted for their views, whatever those views may end up being.

I want my children to be free to be religious, or not to be religious, I want them to be free to get married or not to get married, I want them to be free to choose the kind of life they want to lead.

I don’t want them to ever have to hide who they truly are.

I want them to be equal, to have rights, to be able to speak freely no matter who they are or who they choose to be.

I don’t want them ever to be in a position where who they are is dictated by someone else.

I want my children to be able to love who they want to love, travel where they want to travel, make friends without preconceptions.

I don’t want them to live in a world where the media tells us who is good and who is not, where their decisions are made for them before they are old enough to form an opinion.

I want my children to be people who care about others. I want them to be surrounded by people who care about others. I want them to live in a world that cares about others.

I’m sure you want the same thing too. So really we’re not that different me and you x

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  1. November 9, 2016 / 1:01 pm

    Kindness is important, but sometimes this world requires to be a bit tough and take hard decisions.
    I completely understand what you mean though. Let’s hope that this world we’ll overcome the madness of its current days and will become a better place.

  2. Joanna @mumbalance
    November 9, 2016 / 1:04 pm

    Is this post inspired by the choice of Trump as the new US president? His election today stirred similar feelings in me. Yes, I want my children to live in a world where kindness matters. Current political situation wakes fear deep inside me. There is so much division, and that leads to conflict. Separation. Us and them. In world like this there is no place for kindness…

    • November 9, 2016 / 1:46 pm

      The timing certainly isn’t coincidental but I think it’s inspired by the wider climate as well, Brexit, yesterday’s news about Prince Harry, just an overall lack of respect and care for others and the feelings of others x

      • Joanna @mumbalance
        November 9, 2016 / 2:41 pm

        When Brexit results came in, I wanted to leave UK. Now with Trump in U.S. (and Putin grinning from ear to ear) I want to leave this planet…

  3. November 9, 2016 / 3:45 pm

    Kindness and respect, two things there aren’t enough of at the moment.

  4. November 9, 2016 / 4:25 pm

    Very poignant post. I agree with everything you say. At the end of the day we should be showing kindess and understanding. Today’s result shows that the world is now very broken. I hope that one day we return to kindness. #outsidemywindow

    • November 9, 2016 / 4:52 pm

      Me too, very much so. Thank you for taking the time to comment x

  5. November 9, 2016 / 5:38 pm

    Beautifully said. I believe there is more fear and hate in the world right now then ever. We can counteract some of that with simple kindness.

    • November 9, 2016 / 5:46 pm

      Thank you. I think it’s very hard to be mean to someone who is kind back x

  6. November 9, 2016 / 6:20 pm

    Well said and beautiful. Everyone should want this and people would be alot more happier it this was the case. This year has truly showed us more the way we’re heading and how we need to reinforce positive views. I notice that when I smile and say hello to people in the street they give me cold stares and it’s very unwelcoming but I look at it as they’re either not use to that or they’re just Victor Meldrews x

    • November 9, 2016 / 6:49 pm

      Thank you. I think all we can do is to keep being kind back regardless of their actions x

  7. November 9, 2016 / 7:38 pm

    Big yes to all of these. Especially kindness. If I ask my son “what’s the most important thing to be?” he ALWAYS replies “kind”. I just hope I’ll be able to inspire him to always put that into practice.

    • November 9, 2016 / 8:04 pm

      I love that, what a fantastic son you must have x

  8. November 9, 2016 / 7:47 pm

    The world is crazy but I always try and have a kind and open heart xx

  9. November 9, 2016 / 10:01 pm

    The world is a scary place at the moment I only hope it all comes together and we all make the most of it.

  10. November 9, 2016 / 10:50 pm

    Having good intentions and behaving with grace and dignity is an example of how to act that ought to lead to more kindness in the world, one would hope.

  11. November 9, 2016 / 10:53 pm

    What a cute post 🙂 I like to think I have the same attitudes. Has the Trump outcome influenced this post?

    • November 10, 2016 / 8:15 am

      The timing isn’t coincidental but I think a lot of things have influenced it, the world as a whole just seems to be shifting away from kindness and respect x

  12. November 9, 2016 / 11:14 pm

    Have courage and be kind, that’s a saying that a famous Disney character said. Actually Cinderella has inspired me a lot recently. Freedom is important in this day and age but so is respect of law and order. I hope my mummy is bringing me up in a safe world….but I fear for the worse

    • November 10, 2016 / 8:13 am

      Cinderella talks a lot of sense, I’d keep listening to her if I were you x

    • November 10, 2016 / 10:08 pm

      That’s a very good point, I think sometimes it can be harder to be kind to yourself than it is to be kind to others x

  13. Dannii
    November 10, 2016 / 10:01 am

    I agree that the world needs more kindness, but we need to be tough on some times too. Being too kind can mean being taken advantage of.

  14. November 10, 2016 / 10:18 am

    Kindness is such a simple thing but too many people neglect it. I’d love to be in a world where kindness was just a given x

  15. November 10, 2016 / 5:10 pm

    I was always taught to treat others as you wish to be treated and I think I kind of do that x

  16. November 10, 2016 / 7:59 pm

    Aww this is such a lovely post. I totally agree that Kindness does Matter x

  17. November 10, 2016 / 9:52 pm

    Beautifully put, and very timely given this week’s events.
    Alana x

  18. November 11, 2016 / 9:23 am

    Beautiful post, I want to live in a world where people are kind to themselves and others x

  19. November 11, 2016 / 9:35 am

    This is an inspiring post. We all want the best world for our children and it sucks that much of it is completely out of our control, doesn’t it? But we can all play our own little part. Be happy and kind 🙂 Kimberly x

    • November 11, 2016 / 8:46 pm

      It does indeed, but if there enough of us wanting the same thing, then anything is possible x

  20. November 11, 2016 / 3:58 pm

    Such a lovely post and at the best time as well x

  21. Anosa
    November 11, 2016 / 6:30 pm

    This is beautifully written, a little kindness love and support one another. Not sure where this world is going to

    • November 11, 2016 / 8:44 pm

      Thanks so much, wouldn’t the world be a better place if we did?

  22. glamglitzgloss
    November 11, 2016 / 8:15 pm

    Such a poignant post! It’s crazy how people can forget the effectiveness of a small bit of kindness. Could not have written it better myself

    • November 11, 2016 / 8:44 pm

      Thank you so much, that is such a lovely thing to say x

  23. November 11, 2016 / 10:18 pm

    Such a great post from a mother’s perspective. I want the same for my kids, If only the world was a better place.

  24. November 12, 2016 / 4:32 pm

    What a beautiful post. I have 20 year old twins, and at some point in the future, god willing, I will have grandchildren. We all need human kindness, and it goes a long way when giving it too! x

    • November 14, 2016 / 2:19 pm

      I totally agree, we remember those who have been kind much longer than those who have been mean x

  25. November 12, 2016 / 6:10 pm

    I love your list – Hopefully we will all find that as we go through life, most people are good and kind.

  26. mackenzieglanville
    November 13, 2016 / 1:13 am

    So true we are not that different me and you. As an Australian I have watched from a distance as the election unfolded, and it has made me so sad. I feel like we have somehow slipped backwards and said it is OK to derogated people and still lead a country like America. I am baffled, I will continue to be the best role model I can be and raise my daughters and my son to respect themselves ad others and to always be kind! #TheList

    • November 14, 2016 / 2:18 pm

      It certainly seems that way, I think you’re right though and that is the best thing we can do x

  27. November 13, 2016 / 7:53 pm

    Great post. I often think about the state of the world and it makes me wonder if I want to bring children into it at all.

    • November 14, 2016 / 2:17 pm

      The children are the ones who will bring about the change x

  28. November 15, 2016 / 8:56 am

    I wish all people were kind and just generally considerate. No one knows what someone is dealing with… just be kind.

  29. November 15, 2016 / 12:25 pm

    I honestly think when our children grow up the world will be more tolerant and open to kindness. When I compare my childhood with that of my dad (who is 83) it’s totally different. I’m much more accepting of different religions, cultures, races then he ever could be. For me the uniqueness of each person is beautiful whereas for my dad it’s something he fears. And I think that opens and acceptance will continue throughout the years going ahead.

    • November 15, 2016 / 9:53 pm

      That is such a lovely thought, I do hope you are right. What a lovely evolution that would be x

  30. November 16, 2016 / 5:07 am

    Thank you for writing this. I think spreading kindness will heal us and we need healing so bad right about now.

    • November 16, 2016 / 7:17 pm

      Kindness never goes amiss, I think it helps us feel better too x

  31. lisalambert38 - Mumdadplus4.co.uk
    November 16, 2016 / 6:06 pm

    This is such a great post I teach my kids to be who they want to be and say what they think and feel. It is a scary world we live in and I wonder will they have that freedom in years to come.

    • November 16, 2016 / 7:16 pm

      Thank so much, I hope very much that they will x

  32. November 17, 2016 / 1:41 pm

    Oh how lovely that would be. Being kind and watching your manners is something that I try to instil in my kids every day – after all, they cost nothing. If only everyone felt the same….Love your positivity though – it’s contagious 🙂

  33. Kate Tunstall, The Less-Refined Mind
    November 18, 2016 / 8:09 am

    Very powerful post, I agree absolutely. Alas I fear our hopes will remain an out of reach utopia.

    Thanks for linking up with #outsidemywindow, I hope you’ll be back next time! X

    • November 18, 2016 / 9:24 am

      I’m sure I will be, it’s a great idea. I quite like utopia I think:-) x

  34. January 7, 2017 / 8:25 am

    Such a great post. I don’t think I’ve known a scarier world than we live in now (since I was born anyway!). I definitely want all of those things for my boys and I really hope the world becomes a nicer place for them.

    • Mummy Times Two
      January 8, 2017 / 6:59 am

      Thank you, all we can hope is that enough of us want the same, ultimately it will happen x

  35. January 7, 2017 / 12:18 pm

    That would be perfect – for everyone to be who they are without persecution or judgement, and for a while there, I actually thought we were going to get it. Now it feels like we’re moving further away from it!
    Debbie

    • Mummy Times Two
      January 8, 2017 / 6:58 am

      It certainly does, hopefully it’s just a temporary blip in sanity x

  36. January 7, 2017 / 5:47 pm

    If only everyone was kind the world would be a different place. Our choices are in are being restricted every day and you cant do right for doing wrong. It scares me what the world is turning into.

    • Mummy Times Two
      January 8, 2017 / 6:58 am

      It certainly would, me too x

  37. January 7, 2017 / 8:19 pm

    A powerful post and beautifully written. Wanting a kinder world and taking the actions to get there is the best response to some of the atrocities of 2016. Hugs Lucy xxxx

    • Mummy Times Two
      January 8, 2017 / 6:57 am

      Thank you, I think so too x

  38. January 8, 2017 / 1:50 am

    This world we live in is a scary place, I often wish we could go back to the olden days, the kind my grandparents talk about! But the best we can do is raise our children right, so they know that everyone no mater their race, religion, sex, gender whatever it is doesn’t matter and that we are all equal xx

    • Mummy Times Two
      January 8, 2017 / 6:56 am

      I totally agree, if enough of us try to change the world on a personal level it will be a much better place x

  39. February 6, 2017 / 9:18 pm

    Totally! All of this! They pick up so much from school though – good and bad, that we continually instil kindness into our 7 year old daughter… #weekendblogshare

    • Mummy Times Two
      February 19, 2017 / 11:17 pm

      They certainly do x

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