What Is This Blog About?

More and more recently I’ve been thinking about my blogging niche (or lack of it) and the direction I want it to go in. So as with other decisions that I’m struggling to think through, I thought I would write about it. In main part because I value what you, the people who take time out of your life to read my ramblings, think.

I blog because I love to write, but more than that I blog because I want in my own little way to somehow make a difference in the world.

Now I have decided only to return to teaching in a very part time capacity, I feel that that is even more important. Not for the world, but for me. For my own sense of self-worth, I need to give something back. I have a lot to be thankful for. I have made more mistakes than I care to mention (or even remember) over the years, and yet somehow life has always turned out for the best.

When Number One was diagnosed with Autism, no-matter how prepared I was for the decision that was made, it rocked my world. I spent hours searching the internet, scouring it, hunting for information which back then simply didn’t exist. Girls with Asperger’s were in those days only just coming to the attention of the world, there was an Article by Tony Atwood (the guru of the Asperger’s world) and a handful of books by adults, mostly self-diagnosed talking about their own experiences. What they were writing about was a far cry from my two year old girl, so bright she could recognise any Disney song from the first two notes, yet so anxious she would scream for hours if the slightest part of her routine changed. The information wasn’t there, so together she and I forged a way.

We were lucky, I was a teacher, I had more experience of autism than most. The lack of services, the lack of information, made life harder but not impossible. I will be forever grateful that she was given to me, and that I had the knowledge to give her the intervention she needed whilst she was young. There were sleepless nights, many of them, as I worried about whether I was doing the right thing or the wrong thing. I worried, and still do, about whether I was pushing her hard enough, and then about whether I was pushing her too hard. But together, we have found our way, found the Other Half and ultimately become a family.

When Number Two was born, it was in many ways like reliving history as I once again scoured the internet looking for answers which were not there. His little body so rigid, his inability to feed, his obvious distress had me beside myself. This time I didn’t have the answers, unlike with Number One, I had no idea how to help my second baby. His difficulties were far beyond my experiences and the only answers I could find were ones I didn’t want to hear.

So I did the only thing I could do. I began to write, to record our experiences. I wanted somewhere out there on the World Wide Web, to be a story of a little boy and his big sister. So that at some point in the future it might make one Mum worry a little less, as she sat there hunting, and scouring. So that whatever the outcome, it might give one Mum hope that life would go on. That life could still be normal, whatever that might mean.

Writing became my way of feeling less helpless. In my quest to help one mum worry a little less, I didn’t think about having a niche or a theme, I just poured my heart out on the screen, one day at a time.

Over the last six months we’ve found some answers, and continue to look for others, and I have carried on writing, and you – lovely readers – have carried on reading. My blog is not an autism blog, it isn’t a reflux blog, but it isn’t a family lifestyle blog like a I originally named it either. If I’m honest, it doesn’t fit into any of the traditional niches. For a while I tried to make it, but that meant censoring what I wanted to say.

And that isn’t what I want. It isn’t what this blog is about.

I want to write about autism. I want to write about reflux. I want to write about normal (whatever that might be) family life. And yes, occasionally I want to rant.

I’m not sure what my new strap line will be. But I know it needs to change. We are not a Pinterest family. We are a real family, living real challenges and surviving them.

And hopefully on the way my random ramblings may make one of you feel a little less alone.

And that is far more important than trying to fit into a niche. After all a square peg does not fit in a round hole. And in this house we like to be different.

Mummy Times Two

 

January 29, 2017

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28 Comments

  1. Reply

    Nicola wiggins

    January 30, 2017

    Beautiful post. Our individuality is our own niche. Really enjoyed reading this x#postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      Thank you so much. Maybe you’re right and that is all we need x

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    Anna

    January 30, 2017

    I hear you!
    I started my blog a year ago, my hope was that if there was one mummy or daddy up in the middle of the night googling for an answer to something they thought only they must feel, then maybe a post I’d written would pop up and show them it’s OK it wasn’t just them.
    Not in any specific remit, just like an invisible friend or something.
    I spent a year with like no followers and a handful of views so I decided to up my game. I started fretting about having a niche, being a ‘go to’ blogger, monetising etc. then I remembered, that’s not why I started this. I wanted to be a little light in a dark moment if required.
    So I remain rambling and nicheless and that’s OK .
    Your blog is lovely as it is.
    It doesn’t need to define itself with a label, let it be free! #postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      Thanks so much, I think you’re right. If we sit and think about why we started in the beginning, the rest suddenly seems unimportant x

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    Rachel

    January 30, 2017

    I am in a similar boat. When I started my blog it was based around my post natal anxiety and then when that started to ease it was general parenting. And now it is more focused on premature babies and baby loss. I guess our blogs move along and grow with us. Niche doesn’t work for everyone. xxxx #PostsFromTheHeart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      I think you’re right, they are such a part of us that inevitably they grow with us as our circumstances change. I love your blog, so maybe we should just stick to being nicheless x

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    kristin mccarthy

    January 30, 2017

    I think you are doing just beautifully where you are. Keep writing EXACTLY what you are writing about- real, honest and raw life.

    #postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      That is so very kind of you, in fact so kind you made me cry x

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    Anne

    January 30, 2017

    ummm I’ve been looking for a niche for 6 years now! I’ve found just going with the flow works best, I write about my kids, my life, autism, chronic illness, disability, craft, baking, days out, books…you name it, I just go with it. Who needs a niche anyway? Write from your heart and people will read I’m sure x

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      That is wonderful advice, and you’re right – I read the blogs I love, I don’t look at their niche x

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    Jo - Mother of Teenagers

    January 31, 2017

    “We are a real family, living real challenges and surviving them.” This sums up perfectly what you are about. Don’t stress about your niche, just keep writing and fulfilling your dreams and your blog will evolve naturally. #PostsFromTheHeart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      Thanks so much, you are so lovely x

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    Crummy Mummy

    January 31, 2017

    I think you’ve got the strapline right there: ‘a real family living real challenges & surviving them’! #postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      January 31, 2017

      Wow, I love it. That’s a great suggestion, thank you x

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    five little doves

    January 31, 2017

    What a lovely, honest post. I completely relate to this, to wondering where you fit in and what you want your blog to portray. For a long time I worried about finding a niche, whether that was about loss, or love or life with the children. Eventually I realised that it can be all of those things, or none at all, and my niche is probably more that my posts are always honest, perhaps not always easy to read, and can change from one week to the next. I love your blog, keep doing what you’re doing. #postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      February 1, 2017

      Thank you so much, that means such a lot, especially from you. I love your blog so much. In fact it meant so much you made me cry. Again! X

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    Em Linthorpe

    February 2, 2017

    Yes. YES! So much yes!
    I’ve read a lot of the posts on niches and monetising and blah blah blah. Some pointers are helpful, but a lot of it drowns out why a lot of us do what we do…we want to write about our life and experiences, meet new people and maybe, hopefully, help others out too. You look like you’re doing a smashing job.
    Niche? Peesh! You’re doing fabulous ? #PostsFromTheHeart x

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      Mummy Times Two

      February 4, 2017

      Ahhh that is so kind of you, thank you so much x

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    Susie at This Is Me Now

    February 3, 2017

    I am struggling too to find my niche. And I’ve just hired a designer to do a new logo and realised I have no new tag line. They’ve asked for one so now I’m trying to think but is hard. My blog is called this is me now and my niche is just me/my life now! Argh! I think a lot of bloggers will relate to this xx #postsfromtheheart

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      Mummy Times Two

      February 4, 2017

      It’s so tricky isn’t it? Hopefully one day it will just pop into our heads x

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    The Hippy Christian Mum

    February 4, 2017

    Oh this is so, so lush! So well said. My friend is teetering on the precipice of an autism diagnosis for her little boy so thank you for saying that because it’s made me realise she is going to need lots of friends even though she is expecting it. I started my blog for the same reason as you. My birth experience (breech, homebirth) is very rare and I spent a lot of time just after he was born scouring the internet for other women’s similar experiences and found none and so I wanted to write about mine in case it pops up for another woman in the future. What I would have given at that time to talk to or read someone else’s same experience, and you will have helped lots of people writing about yours. You just helped me! Lovely post.

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      Mummy Times Two

      February 4, 2017

      Thank you so so much, for taking the time to read and comment. No matter how much you expect a diagnosis you’re never really ready for it. Your friend will certainly need her friends. On a Friday I wrote a post to myself about the things I wish I’d known on diagnosis day, it may help you to know the things she might be worrying about. Someone’s Mum, Steph’s Two Girls and It’s a Tink Thing are all beautiful autism blogs that I love to read if your friend is looking for more information x

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    Susie at This Is Me Now

    February 4, 2017

    I feel just like this. I don’t know how I stand out of what my niche is other than just me and my life. My blog is called this is me now because it’s about my life now. I worry it’s not specific enough but I wanted it to be able to grow with me as my life changes. I’m sure you’ll get there. I think it’s ok for your blog to develop over time xx#postsfromtheheart

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    Kat

    February 5, 2017

    This is a great read. We are not a Pinterest family either! We have all had different challenges and experiences through life which will make us relate to others, I think, as individuals we are our own niche

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      Mummy Times Two

      February 5, 2017

      Ahhh thank you, maybe that is the real answer x

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    Becci - The UnNatural Mother

    February 5, 2017

    Great post. I though I had a niche but looking at my posts just of recent they are a total mixed bag so I
    have no clue. #postsfromtheheart

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    Rachel

    April 30, 2017

    I totally get you. I’m not just a family and lifestyle blogger. I write about all sorts although at the moment I do have a focus on want I want to write about. I think some people have ‘niches’ and some people don’t x

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      Mummy Times Two

      May 6, 2017

      Me too x

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